WillowTree of Posey County https://willowtreepc.org Bends but Never Breaks Mon, 03 Aug 2020 19:40:15 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.6 https://willowtreepc.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/cropped-Willow-only-logo-1-3-32x32.png WillowTree of Posey County https://willowtreepc.org 32 32 179324702 Running in the field https://willowtreepc.org/running-in-the-field/ https://willowtreepc.org/running-in-the-field/#respond Mon, 03 Aug 2020 19:40:15 +0000 https://willowtreepc.org/?p=1617

Running in the field:

We are happy to share this walk as part of Walking for WillowTree.
Marie wanted to share one of her favorites.

–I did this on a dare a few months ago. Very glad that field has no snakes….or poison ivy!–

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Helping Domestic Violence Victims https://willowtreepc.org/helping-domestic-violence-victims/ https://willowtreepc.org/helping-domestic-violence-victims/#respond Wed, 29 Jul 2020 16:26:21 +0000 https://willowtreepc.org/?p=1591 Part of our mission at WillowTree is to educate and inform. So in this post, we will address how to help victims of domestic violence. One of the most important things is listening to the survivor. Often, people who have been or are being abused do not have anyone who regularly listens to them. Be willing to engage and start conversations, listen without judgment, know the warning signs and red flags of abuse. It is imperative to show support and trust the survivor’s account, believing that it is true is very powerful. It is essential to offer support, that support should be specific, one good place is to help them is forming a safety plan.

Learn more by looking on our site by learning of the warning signs, or you can read more about this topic in the article, 9 Ways to Help a Victim of Domestic Violence.


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Behavior Many Don’t Realize is Abuse https://willowtreepc.org/behaviour-that-many-dont-realize-is-abuse/ https://willowtreepc.org/behaviour-that-many-dont-realize-is-abuse/#respond Wed, 29 Jul 2020 16:01:11 +0000 https://willowtreepc.org/?p=1583  

At WillowTree, we work to draw attention to the many and often unexpected ways abuse can take hold in a relationship. Often relationships look perfect from the outside. People will think you are in the perfect relationship. Often these relationships start in a fairytale bliss. Your new partner showers you with affection and gifts. However, as things progress and you and your abuser become settled, they will start to pressure you to do something you are uncomfortable with. They will push you to break your boundaries. No is never final. They pressure you to do things you don’t feel comfortable with. Often time
We have found a few articles that go into more depth and would like to share them with you. We provide a few snippets of the text as a preview to decide if you are interested in reading more.

The Common Type of Relationship You Might Not Realize is Abusive

” Unhealthy behavior usually starts in subtle and surprising ways, like love-bombing, for instance. Being showered with attention can feel amazing at first, but it’s also a red flag, says Hassett: ‘Sometimes it just feels like puppy love—‘Oh, he really cares about me and gets so jealous! He wants to be with me all of the time.’’ That can morph into a pattern of monopolizing your time and controlling your social calendar. “

I Was In An Abusive Relationship, And I Didn’t Even Know It

“Looking back now, I shiver. How could I have let myself become victim of something like this? Why didn’t I just end it? Why didn’t someone stop me? All the signs and red flags were there, but I just didn’t see them. Or maybe, at the time, I just didn’t want to. Why didn’t I just end it?”


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What Part of “I Love You” Don’t You Understand? https://willowtreepc.org/what-part-of-i-love-you-dont-you-understand/ Sat, 28 Apr 2012 00:58:12 +0000 http://willowtreepc.org/wpress/?p=168

Does this sound familiar? “You’re so STUPID!”…I love You. “Fat Pig”…I love you. “Can’t you do anything right?!”…I love you. “Psycho”…I love you. “If you leave, I’LL KILL YOU!”…I love you.

No One Deserves to be Abused!

Verbal and emotional abuse can destroy your confidence, self-esteem, beliefs, values and health. “Helpful” criticisms – put downs – name calling – threats – playing mind games – “crazy making” – denying – lying – blaming – isolation. Those are a few ways an abuser keeps power and control in a relationship, often using physical violence as well. Sometimes they are loving, giving you hope that everything will be back to the way if was when you were first together. It also makes it harder for you to leave when the abuse begins again.

Abusers Keep You Off Balance

It is difficult to think of the future when all of your focus is on trying to keep your abuser happy. You may not know if you should leave or stay. Abusers want you to feel too confused, embarrassed, ashamed, isolated and afraid to reach out for help.

Make a Plan

Decide what you will need for yourself and your children to stay safe and live on your own if you leave. Talk to a domestic violence advocate, it is free and confidential. We can help, 812-838-3077 or toll free 866-391-1927.

The Hidden Injuries of Domestic Violence https://willowtreepc.org/the-hidden-injuries-of-domestic-violence/ Sat, 28 Apr 2012 00:57:44 +0000 http://willowtreepc.org/wpress/?p=166

Are You Depressed?

If you answer yes to three or more of the following questions and these feelings continue for more than two weeks and/or interfere in your daily life, it is important that you seek help.

  • Do you feel sad often or all of the time?
  • Do you feel anxious, nervous or irritable?
  • Do you cry often?
  • Do you feel trapped, hopeless?
  • Have you lost interest in things you usually enjoy?
  • Have your sleep habits changed?
  • Are you sleeping too little or too much?
  • Has your appetite changed? Have you gained or lost weight?
  • Do you feel tired/listless?
  • Do you have trouble making decisions?
  • Are you ill more often than you used to be?
  • Do you have frequent headaches and/or stomach aches?
  • Have you thought about killing yourself or wished you were dead?

Depression is a Treatable Illness!

Drug & Alcohol Abuse

Drug and alcohol abuse is not uncommon in violent relationships. Programs such as Al-Anon, for families of alcoholics and addicts, can be a source of information and support. Even if your partner stops using, the controlling and abusive behavior will often continue.

If you are using drugs and/or alcohol, the first step is to seek help for your addiction. Your health and well-being should be your number one priority. No matter what your history may be, no one deserves to be abused!

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Exposure to violence and stress, besides causing depression, can impact your mental health in other ways. If you have nightmares, flashbacks or panic attacks, these may be symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder. A counselor or therapist can suggest treatment options to help you recover.

Where Do I Go For Help?

Call your local mental health provider. Make an appointment with your family doctor. He/she can provide referrals to mental health providers and therapists.
Call a domestic violence hotline.  WillowTree of Posey County Domestic Violence hotline number is 866-391-1927

Are You Being Stalked? https://willowtreepc.org/are_you_being_stalked/ Sat, 28 Apr 2012 00:57:06 +0000 http://willowtreepc.org/wpress/?p=164

Stalking is a series of actions that make you feel afraid or in danger. Stalking is serious, often violent, and can escalate over time. Be aware that stalking is a crime. A stalker can be someone you know well or not at all. Most have dated or been involved with the people they stalk. Most stalking cases involve men stalking women, but men do stalk men, women do stalk women, and women do stalk men.

Some Things Stalkers Do

  • Repeatedly call you, including hang-ups.
  • Following you and show up wherever you are.
  • Send unwanted gifts, letters, cards, or e-mails.
  • Damage your home, car, or other property.
  • Monitor your phone calls or computer use.
  • Use technology, like hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS), to track where you go.
  • Drive by or hang out at your home, school, or work.
  • Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets.
  • Find out about you by using public records or on-line search services, hiring investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting friends, family, neighbors, or co-workers.
  • Other actions that control, track, or frighten you.

Things You Can Do

You are not to blame for a stalker’s behavior! Stalking is unpredictable and dangerous. No two stalking situations are alike. There are no guarantees that what works for one person will work for another, yet you can take the following steps to increase your safety.

  • If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
  • Trust your instincts. Don’t downplay the danger. If you feel you are unsafe, you probably are.
  • Take threats seriously. Danger generally is higher when the stalker talks about suicide or murder, or when a victim tries to leave or end the relationship.
  • Contact a crisis hotline, victim services agency, or a domestic violence or rape crisis program. They can help you devise a safety plan, give you information about local laws, refer you to other services, and weigh options such as seeking a protection order.
  • Develop a safety plan, including things like changing your routine, arranging a place to stay, and having a friend or relative go places with you. Also, decide in advance what to do if the stalker shows up at your home, work, school, or somewhere else. Tell people how they can help you.
  • Don’t communicate with the stalker or respond to attempts to contact you.
  • Keep evidence of the stalking. When the stalker follows you or contacts you, write down the time, date, and place. Keep e-mails, phone messages, letters, or notes. Photograph anything of yours the stalker damages and any injuries the stalker causes. Ask witnesses to write down what they saw.
  • Contact the police. Every state has stalking laws. The stalker may also have broken other state laws by doing things like assaulting you or stealing or destroying your property.
  • Consider getting a court order that tells the stalker to stay away from you.
  • Tell family, friends, roommates, and co-workers about the stalking and seek their support. Tell security staff at your job or school. Ask them to help watch out for your safety.

If You’re Stalked…You Might:

  • Feel fear of what the stalker will do.
  • Feel vulnerable, unsafe, and not know who to trust.
  • Feel anxious, irritable, impatient, or on the edge.
  • Feel depressed, hopeless, overwhelmed, tearful. or angry.
  • Feel stressed, including having trouble concentrating, sleeping, or remembering things.
  • Have eating problems, such as appetite loss, forgetting to eat, or overeating.
  • Have flashbacks, disturbing thoughts, feelings, or memories.
  • Feel confused, frustrated, or isolated because other people don’t understand why you are afraid.
  • These are common reactions to being stalked.

If Someone You Know is Being Stalked, You Can Help

Listen. Show support. Don’t blame the victim for the crime. Remember that every situation is different, and allow the person being stalked to make choices about how to handle it. Find someone you can talk to about the situation. Takes steps to ensure your own safety.

For more ideas on how you can help, call 1-800-FYI-CALL. (1-800-394-2255) Monday-Friday 8:30 a.m. – 8:30 p.m. ET or locally contact WillowTree of Posey County 1-812-838-3077  | Toll free: 1-866-391-1927.

Dating Violence https://willowtreepc.org/dating_violence/ Sat, 28 Apr 2012 00:56:37 +0000 http://willowtreepc.org/wpress/?p=162
One in three teens is physically, emotionally or verbally abused by a dating partner. Does your boyfriend or girlfriend do any of the following:
  • Call you names, make fun of you? Put you down?
  • Act extremely jealous and possessive?
  • Want to know where you are at all times? Check up on you?
  • Call and text you constantly? Does he or she get angry if you don’t call back immediately or aren’t available?
  • Criticize your friends, family, clothes, interests?
  • Tell you what you can and can’t do?
  • Pressure or force you to do things that make you uncomfortable or go against your values? Pressure or force you to have sex?
  • Threaten to hurt you, your pets, family and friends?
  • Threaten to hurt him or herself if you break up?
  • Cause you to stop spending time with friends and family, or you avoid them to keep him or her from getting angry?
  • Hit, push, pinch, grab, shove, pull or do other violent things to you?

If you said yes to any of the above, then you are probably in an abusive relationship. It is important that you get help. Abuse only increases over time.

Top Reasons You Won’t Ask for Help

  • You can handle this yourself – Asking for help doesn’t mean you aren’t smart and capable. Abusers depend on your silence. Get information on dating violence so you can make informed decisions. Call the National Teen Dating Violence Helpline at 1-866-331-9474 or go to their website at www.loveisrespect.org. Your calls are confidential and teen advocates are there to talk with you.
  • You love him/her – You probably believe if you just keep trying then one day he or she will become the person you want them to be and you’ll live happily ever after. It takes two people to make a relationship work; anyone can “I love you”. It’s how one behaves in a relationship that’s important.
  • He/she needs you and can’t live without you – You feel sorry for him or her, maybe you feel responsible for fixing his or her problems. Your boy/girlfriend needs a therapist or counselor who is trained to help them. If you believe they may become suicidal, tell his or her parents, a school counselor, your parents, or an adult who can help.
  • You’re Afraid – He or she has threatened you if you break up. You’re worried about how your parents will react if they find out about the abuse. Ending a relationship with an abuser can be dangerous. Your safety is important and your parents can help you stay safe. In Indiana, if you are under 18 years old, your parent or guardian can file a protective order on your behalf. Make a safety plan too.
  • You’re Embarrassed – Dating violence can happen to anyone, it is not your fault. Don’t let your concerns about what other people think keep you from taking care of yourself and doing what is best for you.
  • You Don’t Want to be Alone – Okay, you will probably feel lonely, that’s normal. Do all the things you weren’t able to do when you were in the relationship. Spend time with your family, go out with friends, focus on the things that you love: music, art, dance, sports, hobbies, etc. Get a job or volunteer for a cause you care about. You don’t need a boyfriend or girlfriend to matter. You just need to believe in yourself.


We Can Help https://willowtreepc.org/we-can-help-2/ Wed, 25 Apr 2012 04:43:33 +0000 http://willowtreepc.org/wpress/?p=1 Domestic violence is more than a black eye. Verbal and emotional abuse are often the first stage in an abusive relationship and can lead to physical violence. No one deserves to be abused – you have options.

Everyday, an alarming number of women, men and children are physically, mentally and sexually abused. We are the mediators to stop the violence and bring hope to victims of domestic abuse. We want you to know we care and can help you.

You are not alone…let’s break the cycle together. Contact us for immediate help, it is free and confidential. 812-838-3077 or toll free 866-391-1927.