At WillowTree, we work to draw attention to the many and often unexpected ways abuse can take hold in a relationship. Often relationships look perfect from the outside. People will think you are in the perfect relationship. Often these relationships start in a fairytale bliss. Your new partner showers you with affection and gifts. However, as things progress and you and your abuser become settled, they will start to pressure you to do something you are uncomfortable with. They will push you to break your boundaries. No is never final. They pressure you to do things you don’t feel comfortable with. Often time
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” Unhealthy behavior usually starts in subtle and surprising ways, like love-bombing, for instance. Being showered with attention can feel amazing at first, but it’s also a red flag, says Hassett: ‘Sometimes it just feels like puppy love—‘Oh, he really cares about me and gets so jealous! He wants to be with me all of the time.’’ That can morph into a pattern of monopolizing your time and controlling your social calendar. “
“Looking back now, I shiver. How could I have let myself become victim of something like this? Why didn’t I just end it? Why didn’t someone stop me? All the signs and red flags were there, but I just didn’t see them. Or maybe, at the time, I just didn’t want to. Why didn’t I just end it?”