Red Flags

Do you know the warning signs of an abusive relationship?

  • Your partner seems “too good to be true”.
  • Your partner says “I love you” before you have really had a chance to get to know each other. He/she wants a commitment right away.
  • Your partner is very jealous or possessive. He/she accuses you of flirting with others, having affairs.
  • Your partner says or does things to embarrass or humiliate you; often in front of other people.
  • Your partner plays mind games. Calls you names, puts you down.
  • Your partner is never responsible for any problems in his/her life; it is always someone else’s fault.
  • You are afraid to make your partner angry – you walk on “eggshells” trying to avoid conflicts.
  • Your partner wants to know where you are all of the time. He/she calls, emails, texts you constantly when you are apart.
  • Your partner blames you for problems in the relationship. You are blamed for causing the violence.
  • Your partner has a low opinion of the opposite sex.
  • You have compromised your values to keep your partner happy.
  • You find yourself making excuses for your partner’s behavior to yourself, friends and family.
  • You feel isolated from, or avoid friends and family because of your partner.
  • Your partner has a history of child abuse, family violence, relationship violence, drug and alcohol abuse.

If you said yes to any of the above, and the behaviors on this list happen often or all the time, you are probably in an abusive relationship. It is important you talk with someone. Talk to a domestic violence advocate, it is free and confidential. Call your local domestic violence hotline for help and information.  We can help, 812-838-3077 or toll free 866-391-1927.